Read the substance of the response. A parent or coach feeling humilated or triggerd because their wrestelr got the tar beat out of them, does not make it immoral or disrespectful. Feelings should not direct the tactics in a wrestling match. Learning to have a little humility, take your losses with dignity and learn from them is part of the sport and life. Your focus should be on getting better each match, each opportunity and each outing. Mental toughness is also part of the game and is something that is developed and fostered. Wanting your kid to get pinned in 10 seconds does not make him better. Worrying that someone will tech him/her does not make them better.