You've described it perfectly, but nobody understands it until their kid becomes a hammer.

Instead of describing the kid working on their skills as "embarrassing" their opponent, why is the onus not on the wrestler who somehow made it to State? Or somehow made it to the finals?

If the mismatch is so great, the kid who continues to be "cut", or TF'd(which also happens to great wrestlers sometimes), should return to the practice room with the motivation to get better.

DO BETTER. DON'T BLAME OTHERS.