It seems to me that the spell certainly got the ball rolling, but I doubt that is what his causing his fixation on you now. I'm going to hate myself for this, but the first thing that popped into my head was a line from that teeny movie, The Craft: "When you cast a spell, you open a floodgate. You can't stop the effects, it must run it's course." This is mostly true, I think. Nevertheless, sometimes even after the flood runs its course it changes the face of the land. The spell may have strengthened what was already there, channeled the emotions into a new (and more lasting) direction, etc etc etc. While spells don't usually last forever, they can certainly cause things that have lasting repercussions.
How clear have you been in what you want? Have you come out and said that you don't want him around, that you have you own life to live that doesn't involve him? Sometimes when we want to be kind, we aren't as clear as we should be. Just a thought.
There are several different spells out there that encourage separation from someone you no longer want in your life, without manipulating free will. You can simply type in "Go Away" or "Separation" spells to find several of the Hoodoo Variety. You could also try using Hot Foot Powder or Oil to get him to go away (though Banishing is said to be milder, you may want to try that first), Cut and Clear Oil or Road Opener to remove your own obstacles. I usually like to pair these oils with a 7 day candle of the appropriate color, and I would suggest black (for separation) or white (because white is good for almost anything), or maybe even a "Divorce" candle would work (but check with someone else first, I could be wrong here). Be clear and focused in your will, and be sure of what you want. You may want to petition a deity or spirit to help you- Archangel Michael (offerings of oranges, cinnamon or garnets) would be good for protecting you if the person is super intrusive, and the Archangel Azrael (jasmine, amethyst, red wine) or Santisima Muerta (tequila, cigars, red roses) is wonderful for peaceful endings...just be very clear you want an end to the situation and you want the person to be happy elsewhere, healthy, safe, etc. If you are pagan, you may consider asking Hekate for help. You may want to divine to predict the results of any future spellwork. This is an invaluable helper if you are proficient or have a friend who is proficient with a divination oracle.
If spellwork and very clearly telling him you are not interested do not work, you may have to physically separate yourself from him to get the point across. Don't accept his calls, his emails, his visits. This may be painful for both of you, and while I encourage you to do it kindly, also do it firmly. Don't give in- you will only encourage his attention if you say one thing and then do another.
If he gets stalkerish in any way, don't be afraid to involve the authorities if you fear for your personal safety and/or privacy.
Mimi probably sells or knows where you can find several of the materials you may need, if you don't have the resources otherwise. Maybe, if you're in the area, you can stop by her shop. If not, you can always ask her for what you can't find on the site.
Good luck!
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