Posted by Angela Willis/Wa Hi! Traditionally the women in the family, especially the Mother and the older women of the family helped to plan the wedding. Today, so many people are busy with full-time jobs (even the Mothers), planning weddings far from each other, and a number of other cases, so you either need to hire a wedding consultant to help you plan or congregate your family. In my opinion, your idea is a very good one for those that want to plan their wedding and make every part of it meaningful. Again, traditionally, you would have a wedding engagement party to announce your engagement as one of your first "get togethers", and that rite ususally falls to the Brides family, first (inviting, his parents and/or family). But as far as what you can do, it is really limitless. Just before the wedding, you could have a Bridesmaids luncheon, but that is usually for thanking them for helping. As a Wedding Planner, I am all about pre-planning. I love your idea, and think, that after your engaement party, your engagement has been announced and you have asked all your party members to be in your wedding, plan an intimate little get together to introduce everyone and tell them your plans, but allow them to offer their help, rather than expecting help from them. Your party should be only an invitation for getting to know each other, having fun, finding out what is going on, and bonding, not a plea for help from you. But, more than likely you will receive the help that you need. I suggest that you make all the plans for the party yourself. Feed them something comforting and make them feel at home. Also make sure that you are organized and have ideas about what you want, but make sure that you are very open to their ideas and opinions. Its also a lot of fun to include little get togethers to do your flowers, decorations, favors, invitations, etc. It would even be fun to have a cooking party (if you wanted to have a pot luck reception). Hope it all works out great! Angela
on 1/11/2005, 12:35 pm, in reply to "bridesmaids dilema"
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