1. You weren't part of the 2 hour one-on-one meeting I had with the official whose stall calls you hated. So, you really are not in a position to comment on that. If you would like to hear what was discussed, feel free to contact me.
2. I always defer to the official who is on the mat when I watch video clips. Because all I can do is incorporate what the rules say about a situation, and the official has some amount of judgment to apply when making their call. If the rule says a near fall requires a shoulder to be 45 degrees or less, I cannot know from watching a video clip whether the referee on the mat thought the shoulder was within 44 degrees or 46 degrees. Or, whether the body positions during a takedown attempt by the wrestlers are in is considered to be evidence of control by one wrestler over another - I just know the rule requires control, down on the mat. If that referee in the clip judged there to be control, then the referee is within the rule when awarding the takedown - regardless of whether I judge those body positions to be a position of control.
3. You claim to know the rules, yet you take issue with Rule 5-5 (Coach Misconduct). It's a very straightforward rule. But, it is obvious that you must not have been involved with any tournament or dual meet I have officiated in the past 5 years - because I tell coaches all the time to simply ask their "clarification question" from the bench or the corner. No need to interrupt the match and go to the table to ask your "Was that an escape?" or "Was there near fall too?" or "Hey - check the scoreboard because that score isn't correct" type of questions. Those questions get addressed within a second or two and the coach gets their information. See how that works? If they want to have a conference, then we simply ask them if they are requesting a conference at the table. If they say "Yes", we have a conference and we simply apply Rule 5-5 since they chose to interrupt the match to discuss a rule application or to question the judgment - that's the risk of a coach interrupting the match for something where the rule was applied correctly or the coach simply disagrees with the judgment of the referee. But, you say you know the rules, so why would any of that be a surprise or disappoint you?
4. Since you obviously never attended one of the Coaches Panels PNWOA hosted, then you are unaware of the revised interpretations that our officials implemented as a result of issues raised by coaches at those panels. Things like when control and a takedown should be awarded when applying a Merkle, or when choking should be called when the arm is across the neck in certain situations. So, instead of falsely complaining that referees "won't listen", bring up your concerns with your local officials association or feel free to band together with other coaches to send your issues to me. But, meantime, stop pretending that my offer is a "fake proposition".
5. I'm not aware of any time where it takes me more than one second to get into position to see a near fall. I tend to be a pretty agile and quick person on the mat. But, again, since you know the rules so well, you also know that near fall requires someone to have control, for near fall criteria to be met, and for the criteria to be met for two continuous seconds or more. And, two seconds with me is pretty close to two seconds, because I time my count every year. When I was coaching, and taking video of my wrestlers, I did witness a number of officials whose "two count" was 1.2 seconds or less. So, maybe you are used to quick counts and don't like my count - sorry. Otherwise, if you see me delaying my near fall count, then perhaps I have not yet awarded control to someone, or perhaps near fall criteria has not been met yet. But, trust me, it is not because I take a lot of time to move into position or that my count is somehow excessively slow.
If you do choose to become a referee, I hope you will be a good colleague. Knowing and citing the rules is great, but there is a good way and a bad way to "call out" your colleagues. But, that's true in any profession and in any work place.