I am certain the judge will insist that the mother will have to enroll in extensive supervised counseling. This is one of the things your lawyer can insist on.
It is very important that you get a good lawyer who knows how to force the court to make the mother get on and stay on a program that will create a path to regain good favor with all the family for the child’s sake.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you had a daughter in law that you can love and trust and be proud of? No matter what has occurred up to this date, you need to take this stance. You need to take the position that you want her to be a daughter-in-law that you can love and trust and be proud of.
You need to take the stance that you are going to do everything possible in your power to help her become a worthy parent. However you must, and you will be strict and firm and insist that she become a healthy, productive, responsible, reliable and respectable member of the family with no exceptions or special allowances.
The recovery time is going to take years. She has invested almost 4 years in being a total louse. No one becomes sober and responsible faster than how long it took them to become a louse. It may take, at the very least, six years of total sobriety and gainful employment in order for you to feel the mother is finally fit to be an active parent and an active member of your family of whom you can be proud .
You’re never going to get rid of her because she is the mother of the child and the court is always going lean toward keeping the mother and child together. You need to agree that family needs to be together and you need to ask the court to help you enforce a plan of strict rules and treatment that must be followed through to a “T”. These rules should be subject to rewards for progress and penalties and privileges that will be revoked for any violations.
You need to get ready to participate in family counseling for the sake of your entire family in the future that you all together are supposed to be creating for this child.
You need to say everything I just told you in the above paragraph to you your prospective lawyer. The lawyer needs to make all of this happened in the strict manner that you require. It’s going to take time and money and lots of emotional investment. Just like a normal family with all the family problems that come in to any family.
I would recommend you go to the Spell Kits & Supply on our websitep and find The Spell To Open the Eyes of Those Who Will Not See. Order that spell kit and start doing it on a regular basis throughout this whole process. Later down the road you need to touch base with me and I can make you the talisman that protects a child. This talisman is a little expensive. I think it is too early for it right now. Lets wait until the court is ready to allow overnight visitation for the mother then we can talk about the talisman.
I will cross my fingers for you.
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