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Posted by holly on 5/13/2008, 11:46 pm, in reply to "Autism, Toddler, Parent"
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You wrote:“We are both getting very frustrated that she is having problems communicating with me.” She can show you frustration…good. Comment on that for her.
You wrote:“I am tired?” or “Mommy, do not touch.” Or “”I want to do something else.” (mommy cannot show frustration)
You wrote:“It’s at the end…”(get over it, mom; you’ll be fine)
You:“She says one word sentences…”excellent!
“…working on eye contact”…be very gentle with this. It is a cue and has a lot of behavior reinforcement that can become negative if demanded too often. She is very young so pick moments to cue for eye contact when she is cooperative and participating. This way it won’t be attached to something that is not going well. Hug her often. Hug her when she does a good job, and hug her when she doesn’t do a good job. Don’t attach ‘your’ approval to showing how much you love her and how she ALWAYS getting your approval and hugs. rather only when all is going well. Wait and let the specialists’ with-hold praise, etc. until they accept or judge a response. Again, rewards and criticism is a very specific behavioral science. As mom, you have the joy and love-bond with this special child. Let her love every minute of time with you when you are ‘teaching’ her things. It is okay to scold her or tell her no during all of the everyday mom-child-family-life instances. Just not when you are ‘teaching’. This is not a false reaction on your part, but just NOT a reaction. Let the language, speech, learning sessions be short, organized, repeated, and familiar as you wear your “teacher” cap. The rest of the time you will be wearing your “mommy” cap. Think about this until it makes sense.
You wrote:“…sharing her moods”. She is so young. Try to distract her by going into a completely different activity or even saying something in a cheerful tone and attempt to lead her mood away from anger. Is she tired, over-stimulated, hot, anxious, hungry, thirsty, ???Maybe you will notice some things that begin to indicate she is heading towards an angry outburst.
You wrote:“…cards with pictures” BORING!!! Make it real. Play house, play garden, play picnic, etc...Use the little phrases that go right along with what ever it is you are playing. Picnic” use words like picnic, basket, paper plates, plastic spoon, blanket, meet daddy, take bunny, take kitty, buy napkins, after nap, on a pretty day, under a shady tree.
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