Posted by Grace
on 12/5/2008, 10:57 pm, in reply to "Re: OT: Grieving"
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The only thing I can really point at is that they have this sense of entitlement, and a desperate need to be worshiped. My background is very different than that of his ex-wife, not to mention that she came on the scene as a 16 yr old and I was 25. So while she was dazzled by anything and everything, it is all just the norm for me. It's not that I was never appreciative for this or that, but they honestly would be offended at Christmas, etc. b/c I "didn't act appreciative enough" or "she didn't seem like she liked that." I think saying thank you or this is exactly what I wanted, etc. should be sufficient. And Michael and I have had horrible times getting our place in our careers and many times it would be rubbed in what they had or were doing or what his sister was capable of financially. But I am into debt-free living (or as close as one can get these days) and refuse to go into debt to keep up with the Joneses or have things to show my worth. Nor do I think that I suffer from not doing so, my life has been pretty fulfilling.
So, in a nutshell, I have always thought that it was held against me that I was not his ex (who they act like they hate) b/c she has always been dazzled by everything, and the fact that I am grown person with my own thoughts and opinions and no desire to follow anything and everything she says. She just always seemed so offended if I did not want to do everything just like her.
Oh, and they act like his kids are theirs and they share joint custody. As in, they liked to run and get them on Fridays and keep them at their house all weekend and then gripe at us if we (yes, both of us) weren't there the entire weekend. The last weekend Michael had the kids before he died, we got them on Friday and took them running around and to play putt-putt. Saturday, they had a soccer game so we took them to that and then he decided to suck it up and take them to his parents' house and we would just all watch the UT game over there. Guess what? He got in trouble for not calling them and not bringing the kids over the night before. He ended up getting pissed off and leaving and we went to run errands and he ranted. I reminded him that the weekends were his, the visitation rights were his, and that he didn't have to take the boys over at all if he so wished. To him, it wasn't worth doing that for hearing about it.
If I ever date again, I think I need to do a background check on the parents first! lol Outsiders think these people are wonderful and I even liked them alot until they slowly began to show their true colors. Still, I did NOT see this coming....they have always been very nice to me. Irritating, but good to me.
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