Posted by Grace
on 12/5/2008, 10:40 pm, in reply to "Re: OT: Grieving"
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Marlene-
I am sorry to hear that about your husband. I thought at one time you had mentioned being a widow and I thought maybe you would have magic words of what helped you.
As for heirs, that was part of the reason I was upset. I had all these things in mind to get to the boys now-like the Wii and Rock Band that I intended for them to have at THEIR house where they could be with them all the time, NOT at their grandparents where they already have it. Anything and everything of Michael's, I felt like his kids were to have, other than purchases that we made together (furniture, TV, etc.) that they wouldn't need. Their mom and I are on good terms and she offered to come help me go through everything when I was ready but it wasn't something she looked forward to either, so there was no rush. She even told his mom this after that first incident, which by the way his mom mentioned to her that she thought "that may have been a little too early for Shannon." Ya think?? So, the jist of it is, I think that Michael's mom made the mistake of thinking this over and for some stupid reason they don't like the boys taking things home with them b/c it's equated with giving it to their mom which is just silly. Therefore, they had to come and raid the place to make sure that they had it but "for the boys." They better all be happy b/c he wanted to make that policy out to me but I talked him into making the boys beneficiaries after convincing him that it wouldn't go directly to their mom, but in trust. I too am glad that I did not receive it b/c even though I would have forwarded on to the kids anyway (I myself don't need the money)they would have wanted some for them under the disguise that it was "for the boys." That is the golden excuse for everything. They are money and possession and junk hungry and the illustration of new money. I was able to find a few things overlooked that I got to the boys ASAP. And the boys' mom asked for very legit things for the kids like a Putt-Putt trophy from high school, Michael's college diploma, his ceramic smileys that his aunt had made for him when he was little, and his autographed UT pictures. I also managed to get their wedding pictures and pictures from when they were dating and first married to her-to me, those belonged to HER and I was determined to make sure that she got them and cried she was so appreciative. She had no idea what had happened to that stuff. Had the parents found the pictures, they would have run with them "to save for the boys."
But how I never knew how they truly felt about me, I'll never know. Blind? I never allowed myself to become closer b/c I did not trust them-I have seen how they talk horribly about his ex and then kiss her butt to her face. It made me wonder what was said about me when I wasn't around! It angers me that they do her that way. She is a really good mom and that should be all that matters.
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