Posted by Nicole on 10/12/2009, 8:18 am
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Wow. I'm still kinda stunned about all this, and my mind is going in a thousand different directions. So please forgive me if this post is even more chaotic than usual.
I suspected I might be pregnant for a few days, so I made an appt with my doctor. He confirmed it, gave me some literature to read, and made another appt for me to come in. I asked him about my smoking, and he said the best thing to do was cut down immediately and phase it out of my life completely within a few weeks. On the way home in the car, I smoked two cigarettes. When I got home, I did something totally selfish, but I don't regret it. I took a few pretty big bong hits, got really high, and then cleaned out my bong and put it away. I may or may not be able to give up cigarettes, but I know I can stop smoking pot, at least for the next 8 months. I wound up giving all my pot to my sister-in-law Annmarie when we told everyone the news. In the last few weeks, I cut my smoking in half, from 2 ppd to 1 ppd. That was really difficult for me, and I honestly can't see how I can possibly quit altogether.
I've spoken to several moms I know who smoke or used to, and asked about their experiences. Some of them quit during their pregnancy and started again after the baby was born. My brother's wife fits into this category. Two women I spoke to quit during pregnancy and never touched a cigarette again. The vast majority, it turns out, never quit at all. They smoked the whole 9 months. All the women on my husband's side of the family smoked throughout their pregnancies. Annmarie said she didn't even quit smoking pot! Not one woman I spoke to said their child ever developed health problems, and the ones I see regularly, Joe's nieces and nephews, all seem fine to me. I do think the dangers of smoking while pregnant are exaggerated, but I also believe there is some risk involved.
The bottom line is, I'm gonna try to quit. I doubt I will be able to do so, but I'm gonna try. Everytime I light a cigarette now, I feel a little guilty. Maybe the guilt will be enough to help me quit. Of course, I'll keep you all posted.
To answer the question some here have asked: I have no preference as to the baby's sex. As long as he/she is healthy, I'll be pretty happy. We can find out the baby's sex around the 12 week mark. I'll let you know when I find out.
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