Posted by Sue
on 5/5/2009, 3:55 pm, in reply to "Re: My Best Friend"
146.18.173.72
Dear Stephanie, Laurien, Pam & Lesley... you are all so kindhearted and I appreciate your letters and words of encouragement.
We received Sarah's ashes back on Saturday night and yes the tears flowed again. My husband and I had a good cry and it was very hard to relive the moment again.
We did however turn our tears into some smiles by talking about her and the joy, happiness and silly things she had done over her years. That was a nice talk--to be able to get to that stage of smiling and remembering fun times.
I'm very happy we had a private cremation and wanted her ashes returned as well. At first I was set against it, the thought of it wasnt something I could deal with. But now I'm happy my husband convinced me it was something we should do.
Her urn is beautiful and not at all what I imagined would be getting returned to me. I guess i imagined a box of some sort but its a beautiful ceramic jar type urn and a nice card arrived with it from the company who cremated Sarah.
Now I'm having huge hesitations on burying the urn in our backyard. We had come up with a nice shady spot under our huge Elm tree, where Sarah used to lie on hot days and sleep. She could "guard" the gate to our yard there and see through the fence to the street. We were going to get a marker made up to place on the ground there...
But now that i've got her urn in my hands, I really cannot imagine digging a hole and placing it in the ground. Just the thought of that makes me shake my head, no no no. Maybe since we've been slowly giving all her stuff (bowls, dishes, bed, leashes, etc) to the local shelter i'm worried I wont have that item of hers to still communicate and talk to her.....? Right now i still have her bed in our living room and talk to it/her daily secretly.
I think what i'll do is give it time to help me decide whether burying her urn is something i can/need to do or not.
Cheers ladies, thanks so much.
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