thanks for your comments luv, I really appreciate them.
I have already tried to 're-invent' myself over the last couple of years with doing beading and jewellery making, which I am thoroughly enjoying, but even taking up a new hobby has its limitations in as much as I do not have (never have had actually) my own transport, and unable to drive due to eyesight problems, so joining any groups or most other social contacts is badly curtailed.
When we first lost Jo, I told Tinks that I would always be here for her if ever she needs a 'Mum' support, and she knows that I will always, at any time drop everything for her if she needs me.
I asked her, while everything was still pretty 'raw' if she had friends at school she could talk to if needed, she said yes, she had plenty of friends, but if they ever talk about things she changes the subject because she doesn't want to talk about it. She is a very private girl and does seem to be coping very well with getting on with her life. I guess kids are just far more resilient. Either that, or, as you say, she may find it hard to bring up the memories.
Hope that you are doing good at the mo hun, I think I've seen you comment occasionally on Donna's facebook page, is that right? You're welcome to add me as a friend on your fb if you'd like.
Luv n hugs