CrohnsChat: back from oncology with mum

back from oncology with mum

Posted by chip on 21/11/2007, 3:42 pm

hi guys. Went to mums first oncology appointment to see the cancer specialist. He told us that alsthough the cancer hasn't spread to other organs it has spread to lymph nodes and is a stage 3 cancer, growing out the other side of the osesophagus wall and is about 7cm big. He also confirmed surgery is no good for my mum. The three options were: do nothing except a hospice and pain relief which wouldn't give her long. Do palliative care which involved 5 weeks of radiotherapy daily visits to have it and a stent to keep the throat open OR do mix of chemo and radiotherapy which he advised against. Mum has calcification of the aorta so chemo and a heart infection or infection could kill her. Her biggest wish is not to suffer so she's opting for chemo because if she does have a heart attack it would be quick and at least it does give her some small chance of recovery. It's the five weeks of radio therapy she's not looking forward to. Apparently it will make her throat really sore. Chemo may make her sick but they'll give her drugs for that. It was horrbile. Now faced with those three I would have compared it to hobson's choice. My mum said it is like trying to choose which chocolate to pick from the box! bless her/ The worse bit is the waiting. Unbleievably we have to wait 3 weeks to start and even then they do a CT scan to work out exactly where to blast with radio therapy and something called a quality check before the ACTUALL chemo, It does give her another 3-4 weeks of feeling well beofre the treatment all kicks off and when we got back we had the "talk" about her choices for her funeral etc, which left me really tearful when i left. I'm gonna see if i can have my op in the next four weeks so i'll be well enough to care for mum when she starts her treatment, so keep your fingers crossed.
What ever happens it's in God's hands now, so if you have a faith please please keep praying for my lovley mum Maureen.
wb x

below is a pic of my mum and me some time last year.

Responses:

Re: back from oncology with mum - Pat 21/11/2007, 4:17 pm
- Re: back from oncology with mum - Mud 21/11/2007, 5:03 pm
Re: back from oncology with mum - Keith N (kan) 21/11/2007, 4:48 pm
Re: back from oncology with mum - Darcy 21/11/2007, 5:23 pm
Re: back from oncology with mum - Liz 21/11/2007, 10:06 pm
Re: back from oncology with mum - Dave 21/11/2007, 10:28 pm
- Re: back from oncology with mum - sam m 22/11/2007, 10:51 am
Re: back from oncology with mum - mill 22/11/2007, 12:09 pm
Re: back from oncology with mum - ny 23/11/2007, 9:09 pm

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